some guy [lesbian]

09/16/25 16:59:07 ¶ ●

A 6 striped flag going from black, to dark blue, to light yellow, to mid orange, to dark reddish orange, to dark pink.

my new gender term. it’s called mirarel, or mirarigender. you can also just call it gender mirroring or mirrored gender, and it’s meant to be a parallel to mirrored pronouns. this term is for when you are the same gender as whoever is talking to or about you. it’s similar to things like mirrorgender, but in this instance, you don’t change based on the people around you in a given moment, or based on any specific type of relationship. you simply are the same gender as whichever person is talking to or about you in any given moment, regardless of where you are, or if they even know you. it’s pretty much the same as mirrored pronouns, but with gender instead.

like with mirrored pronouns, the experience could be more fuzzy or more clear. with fuzzy mirroring, you match the general, broad characteristics of whoever is talking to / about you; if someone who is genderspace is referring to you, you might just be generally “nonbinary” or “some space-related gender,” for instance. with clear mirroring, the match is exact. if someone who is genderspace is referring to you, you are also genderspace. i think there could also be odd mirroring, where you always match the gender as the person talking to / about you, but your presentation or other characteristics are always different, and other things like that.

the name comes from the latin word mirari (“to wonder at; admire.”)

like with other matching genders, pangender, etc., this won’t apply to mirroring genders that you literally can’t experience, like culture-specific genders, neurogenders that don’t apply to you, and that kind of thing. in those instances, a user might be obscurian, neutral, or entirely agender.

09/11/25 08:57:49 ¶ ●

A 7 striped flag going from dark blue, lighter blue, light purple-blue, light orange, mid orange, red, dark pink-red.

A 7 striped flag going from dark blue, lighter blue, light purple-blue, light orange, mid orange, red, dark pink-red. This version of the flag has had the colors slightly brightened.

okay so uh. here’s a thing i made, it’s called vesbian. it’s an equivalent to the word “gai,” for those who are lesbians, but in a nonbinary (+ genderqueer, binaryweird, etc…) way.

there’s already the terms gai and strayt to have this for general gay / straight experiences with nonbinary and genderqueer people, so i wanted to make one that was specific to lesbianism and those adjacent to it. while lesbians have always been included under gai too, some people might prefer the more specific word, just like how lesbians have always been included in “gay,” but also have their own word. gai is also just fantastic shorthand and has been for a while, and vesbian can serve the same purpose for nonbinary lesbians and similar groups.

in my mind, the term is pronounced like “vehss-bee-an,” as opposed to lesbian being “lehzz-bee-an” because it reminds me a lot of the word “vesper,” but i don’t care at all how other people prefer to say it. the flag is inspired by the gai flag, but i wanted to have a mix of blues and orange / red.

[this is a repost of my own term, i want it to have an active link again.]