idk how controversial this is but we never should’ve ceded ground on the whole “sex vs gender” thing with cis people tbh
just saw a trans guy on reddit say that he doesn’t like it when people tell him he was “born female” because he feels like he has always been male only for a bunch of insufferable nerds to come out of the woodwork like “technically sex and gender are different and you have a vagina therefore you are female” like how is that not just regular misgendering
i keep seeing people in the tags like “some trans people are intersex” and that’s true and im glad people are pointing it out but i want to make it clear that calling a perisex trans man “female” or a perisex trans woman “male” is also incorrect and transphobic.
my radical behavior is i just don’t state things i don’t think need to be stated. people make so many insane assumptions about others online if you don’t overshare or make a ton of disclaimers, and that’s not… normal. you’re weird as hell if you assume someone liking or reblogging a post from someone means they agree with everything on op’s blog. you’re weird as hell if you stalk someone’s private likes or sideblogs to get whatever bullshit “info” you’re using to justify basically stalking a stranger. that is extremely offputting behavior and mentality and i’m not even entertaining the idea by disclaiming a shit ton of things. like hi welcome to my blog i’m a human being and i put things on here that i like. if you make a shit ton of weird assumptions about me because i didn’t write a ten paragraph list trying to justify my existence and how unproblematic i am? that’s on you. and you’re weird
like idk there’s something nice about just existing however you want online and letting go of the obsession with coming off as picture-perfect to absolutely everyone. i like what i want, i do what i want. i like to ramble about dumb shit, i delete posts ten seconds after making them because i stopped caring, i complain about really dumb shit, i randomly make flags and html code, i start yelling about random music and shit i found out of nowhere. i don’t caaaaaare if it fits the vibe or if i come off as weird anymore. i don’t care if people always like me because i like me. it’s great you should join me and stop worrying so much about if absolutely everyone around you is gonna fuck with it or not. that’s their skill issue not yours
my radical behavior is i just don’t state things i don’t think need to be stated. people make so many insane assumptions about others online if you don’t overshare or make a ton of disclaimers, and that’s not… normal. you’re weird as hell if you assume someone liking or reblogging a post from someone means they agree with everything on op’s blog. you’re weird as hell if you stalk someone’s private likes or sideblogs to get whatever bullshit “info” you’re using to justify basically stalking a stranger. that is extremely offputting behavior and mentality and i’m not even entertaining the idea by disclaiming a shit ton of things. like hi welcome to my blog i’m a human being and i put things on here that i like. if you make a shit ton of weird assumptions about me because i didn’t write a ten paragraph list trying to justify my existence and how unproblematic i am? that’s on you. and you’re weird
sometimes people experiencing psychosis and/or mania will come up to you on the street and talk in confusing or upsetting ways. your job is to either have a regular human-to-human conversation with that person or politely leave. your job is not to call 911. do not call 911. you might kill that person if you call 911.
I don’t even have the energy to screenshot and respond to your tags- what the actual fuck is wrong with you? “the cops are scared and rightfully so” “mental health calls are the scariest for cops” OH so this isn’t about the safety of psychotic & manic people this is about piggy feelings?
and no, actually, this is not USA specific and no, actually, people from other countries should not ignore this post. police violence and sanism weren’t invented in the US and they are certainly not unique to here. if you (or anyone) thinks that this bullshit doesn’t happen elsewhere then you are not listening.
There’s something so openly disrespectful about how Serano is never cited in academic scholarship for coining the term transmisogyny. Butler is always cited for gender performativity. Puar is always cited for homonationalism. Edelman is always cited for reproductive futurism. All these ubiquitous academic terms used in queer & feminist studies that, even when considered canonical and universally recognized, still require a citation. But transmisogyny (if it’s even acknowledged at all) is this free floating idea, a common word that needs no citation, no reference to the labour of theory building, no acknowledgement of an intellectual tradition that Serano was instrumental in advancing. if you fail to cite the queers and the gays it’s deemed an error by peer reviewers, but the work of trans women needs no citation
terezi, june, dirk, roxy, and vriska. oh, and calliope. you should’ve seen me when i was liveblogging to my friends, saying shit like “if anything bad happens to calliope i’m blowing everything up. [they] are the nicest most awesomest character and i feel so bad for [them].” and then… :(
just fyi you shouldn’t emulate the problematic behavior depicted in fiction. just because something looks okay in a story doesn’t make it okay in real life. this is about talking to your ex. do not text your ex. that’s the devil speaking. you’re not in a romcom. you’re not in a fluffy fanfiction. it won’t work out. don’t do it.
a lot of people think oppression is about hatred but the thing is hatred is just a tool of oppression. oppression is really about power. and that’s why someone of an oppressor class saying they hate an oppressed class is bad but someone of an oppressed class saying they hate their oppressor class doesn’t really matter. there’s a power imbalance here that is not only significant but kind of the entire driving purpose of the oppression in the first place
do you have any idea how to make isotope filtering on neocities work using quicksearch (as opposed to buttons)?? i've fiddling with it for ages and i just.. can't get it to work.
I HAVE NOT TRIED THIS YET BUT I 100% WILL LATER. I’ve been meaning to figure out isotope filtering with 1. a dropdown and 2. search anyways, so if I figure it out I will definitely post about it !!!
I’m so torn on if I want to make a system page using the Laundry layout, like it makes total sense to do so, it fits with the format, it’d be super cool, but IDK if I really wanna share even the most basic information about said system publicly. And Neocities doesn’t have “private” pages or anything like that, I’m pretty sure I tried to give a page a password once a few years ago (which would be perfect for this, I could give my friends the password) and got my account banned for it
nvm you can totally password protect neocities pages you just have to do client side encryption
I’m so torn on if I want to make a system page using the Laundry layout, like it makes total sense to do so, it fits with the format, it’d be super cool, but IDK if I really wanna share even the most basic information about said system publicly. And Neocities doesn’t have “private” pages or anything like that, I’m pretty sure I tried to give a page a password once a few years ago (which would be perfect for this, I could give my friends the password) and got my account banned for it
A woman whose epilepsy was greatly improved by an experimental brain implant was devastated when, just two years after getting it, she was forced to have it removed due to the company that made it going bankrupt.
Specifically, because she couldn’t afford to buy the implant from the company. They basically took her implant back to recoup their losses. This is what happens when you privatize healthcare and health research. The group providing her with this implant should not have been able to go bankrupt in the first place, let alone repossess her implant to pay off their debts.
This is what disabled people mean when we say that cyberpunk horror is just a reality for us. This woman was literally forced to undergo a surgery because she couldn’t pay to keep the implant already inside her brain. How long till companies start repossessing pacemakers and transplants?
A couple years ago, I talked about a concept called Likeness, or -like as a suffix. I feel like it’s still an experience that applies heavily to me and matters a lot to my overall alterhumanity, so I want to talk about what it is, and what it’s like to share a likeness with something.
Likeness refers to being… well, like something. The term “share a likeness with x” is very common in casual conversation, so I’m going off of that. It could be based on how you think, your behavior, your instinctual feelings, your mannerisms, etc. being like something. So for instance, if I was catlike, I might share behavioral qualities with cats. I might have catlike instincts or inclinations, or think like a cat. I think the best way to describe likeness is to say that it’s “when you share a likeness with something on an integral level.“
Some stuff I’ve experienced: (Don’t take this as a list of requirements, this is just how I personally experience sharing a likeness with something.)
I feel very symbolically tied to what I share a likeness with. I feel like it could represent me.
I feel instincts, urges, and thoughts tied to what I share a likeness with.
I feel as though I “think like an x,” without actually being it.
I feel as though I understand, or even mimic, what I share a likeness with more than most people do.
I want to look xlike, or have xlike qualities, but not necessarily be one entirely.
I feel as though I could be categorized in a similar place to what I share a likeness with. Similar souls, similar thinking, similar instincts or behavior, similar species, something like that.
I am behaviorallysimilar to what I share a likeness with in many ways.
The term is meant to be really broad, straight-forward, and simple. What you see is what you get, no funny business or over-complicating it. There will be overlap between this and other things, but I feel as though it’s something that really works for me. I don’t think it fits into the framework of "identifying as” or “identifying with” at all, and I don’t think you need to have those experiences to share a likeness with something.
In terms of how to use it in conversation, the main way I do it is just using “likeness,” “I share a likeness with x,” or “I’m xlike.” There’s a lot of ways you could word it in a sentence! But, I also made something a bit more differentiated from casual conversation when necessary to do so, which is to use -liken instead of -like. For instance, instead of saying you’re catlike, you could say you’re catliken!
So, any of these would work:
I’m catlike.
I’m catliken.
I share a likeness with cats.
In terms of the official “name” for this experience, I considered otherliken, but to distinguish it further, especially from very similar words like otherlink, I think ostalike and ostaliken is better, more unique, and more distinct from other terms. The prefix, osta, comes from ostali, a word meaning other or different in Serbo-Croatian and Bosnian.
And that’s about it! I might start talking about this more on my blog using the #ostaliken tag, just to use the most unique tag possible. Here is where I originally talked about sharing a likeness with something, though I think I covered all the original stuff in this post. Archiving the OG is still good.
If this is confusing at all or have questions, let me know! This is a really personal experience to me, and I’d be happy to over-explain my experiences because it’s really fun. Bye!
i actually never ever want AO3 to be censored bc nothing is more fun than reading the tags on a fic and going “huh. didn’t know there was a market for that.”
squinting at a tag and trying to decide how badly I want to learn a new word
people confuse “shouldn’t matter” with “doesn’t matter” and it annoys me
race Shouldn’t matter. it should be a neutral characteristic that changes nothing about people’s treatment or placement in society. gender Shouldn’t matter, it’s just a collection of traits we’ve assigned vague aesthetics to in society. in a vacuum, these things are made up constructs with no scientific basis. you might be more genetically related to someone of another race than someone in your own. you might meet someone of another gender who you share more in common with over someone of your own
they do matter, though, don’t they. misogyny is institutionalized across every facet of our society to benefit men at the expense of women. racism is institutionalized across every facet of society to benefit white people at the expense of everyone else. these things go so deep into the roots of everything that simply plucking out the bad apples doesn’t do shit, ten more bad apples will be born tomorrow. this shit is SYSTEMIC
this is why “i don’t see color” and “i’m not a feminist i’m an egalitarian” don’t work. you’re confusing “this shouldn’t matter and we need to fight to make it not anymore” with “it already doesn’t matter! i will just passively opt out of the entire concept.” like. the latter is contributing to oppression. you’re plugging your ears and going lalala. bringing these things into a conversation is not saying “these things are immutable qualities that are unchanging facts of reality and we should be ok with it,” we’re saying “these things do in fact affect us, and if we want to get rid of it, we need to acknowledge that yes, some people are treated worse than us and we need to put in effort to fix that, even if it is at no benefit to us, or even takes away some of our privileges.” and god forbid people bring up intersectionality in these discussions. nobody on here knows what that term means unless it is specifically and exclusively to absolve them of feeling responsible for their own biases and privilege
seafoam, trench, fool's gold, dusty curtains, not so healthy grass, and ORB!!!!
EHE you flatter me!!
you can always ask for my disk hoard if you wanna talk to me! i give it out pretty freely if someone dms me for it, i just don’t put it in like, my pinned or whatever.
also god dammit FINE okay maybe i do need water. maybe so. maybe i’ve been drinking just tea for the past few hours. what about it.
the world that the “trans women have male privilege” types live in is so fascinating. is that the same one where we only date cis lesbians instead of eachother too??
like. lets imagine for a moment what that actually looks like. the world that you are positing requires for a hiring manager to sit down and look at two candidates, a trans woman and a cis woman, and consistently choose trans applicants over cis ones.
There are two obvious cases here. The first is that the trans woman passes, and the two candidates look identical, leaving no way for her to be advantaged whatsoever. The second is that she does not pass, and the hiring manager, while viewing her as a “man in a dress” (as you lot love to put it) willfully chooses her over the cis woman. Show me any data that could possibly support this behavior. Look me in the eyes and tell me you believe this makes any sense at all
i think far too many people have only seen this video as that one sped up gif version of it and that is a crime that needs to be fixed because this video actually changed my life
is it possible to use two different themes? like could i use the rentry one for my main page but then also use the laundry theme on a different page with a link? or do things have to all be the same theme?
oh you can very easily use both. on your index.html (your homepage) you import the rentry-ish theme, then you make a new page and call it whatever you want . html, and you import the code from the laundry theme onto that. then you just have to link them together and they’ll work as separate pages on the same site.
ok so you wanna know my least favorite thing about coding. centering shit. sure, ok, it sounds like it should be easy right. margin: auto;. done. but sometimes it just does NOT work. no matter how many times i make the margins automatic. do this. do that. something will just NOT center. EVER!!! and i have to turn my code into spaghetti that’ll break if i change anything in order to perfectly position shit into the center. it makes me want to KILL SOMEONE !!!!!
like please god if someone looks at the code and figures out why this is the case i will. i. i dont know but ill do something. because im literally murderous about this
OMG I FIXED IT. praise the sun
mobile elements fixed! so here’s my laundry theme update:
removed the zoom element on mobile to make the transition effect less weird and janky
made the transition animation a little smoother and longer, added stagger, both for accessibility and prettiness reasons (you can easily edit these out if you dont like them)
finally centered everything properly
made the mobile theme consistently one size and everything fit onto it, no zoom or panning needed
cleaned up some unnecessary code that was not needed anymore after finding more elegant solutions
also the resources page on my neocities has been changed to be for a list of my current themes. the alterhuman resources i had on there are going to be moved over to a specific archive page
and i might be adding isotope filtering to all my archive pages. because of course. but we’ll see
ok so you wanna know my least favorite thing about coding. centering shit. sure, ok, it sounds like it should be easy right. margin: auto;. done. but sometimes it just does NOT work. no matter how many times i make the margins automatic. do this. do that. something will just NOT center. EVER!!! and i have to turn my code into spaghetti that’ll break if i change anything in order to perfectly position shit into the center. it makes me want to KILL SOMEONE !!!!!
like please god if someone looks at the code and figures out why this is the case i will. i. i dont know but ill do something. because im literally murderous about this
ok so you wanna know my least favorite thing about coding. centering shit. sure, ok, it sounds like it should be easy right. margin: auto;. done. but sometimes it just does NOT work. no matter how many times i make the margins automatic. do this. do that. something will just NOT center. EVER!!! and i have to turn my code into spaghetti that’ll break if i change anything in order to perfectly position shit into the center. it makes me want to KILL SOMEONE !!!!!
like please god if someone looks at the code and figures out why this is the case i will. i. i dont know but ill do something. because im literally murderous about this
ok so you wanna know my least favorite thing about coding. centering shit. sure, ok, it sounds like it should be easy right. margin: auto;. done. but sometimes it just does NOT work. no matter how many times i make the margins automatic. do this. do that. something will just NOT center. EVER!!! and i have to turn my code into spaghetti that’ll break if i change anything in order to perfectly position shit into the center. it makes me want to KILL SOMEONE !!!!!
like please god if someone looks at the code and figures out why this is the case i will. i. i dont know but ill do something. because im literally murderous about this
ok so you wanna know my least favorite thing about coding. centering shit. sure, ok, it sounds like it should be easy right. margin: auto;. done. but sometimes it just does NOT work. no matter how many times i make the margins automatic. do this. do that. something will just NOT center. EVER!!! and i have to turn my code into spaghetti that’ll break if i change anything in order to perfectly position shit into the center. it makes me want to KILL SOMEONE !!!!!
i wish people tagged stuff as like. #[x] flag instead of just the term itself. because sometimes i wanna find actual posts by people and not just a ton of coining or flag posts. constelic is my main example. the #constelic tag is full of just coining post after coining post for specific stels having pride flags, which is fine, but it would be nice if they were at least tagged as like, ’#constelic flag’ or something, so i can filter it out sometimes. there is the tag ’#actually constelic’, which is much better, but they’re still in there, and it’s also not gonna be as well-known as the main tag. sometimes i just wanna see people talking about their experiences, y'know? i also get this issue with otherkin and things, though not quite as much because constelic is a smaller term than ‘kin, so when the constelic tag gets clogged up by tons of new niche/specific flags, it really gets clogged. but it’s still a problem for 'kin.
also a big problem with neogenders. i love you, coiners, i really do. i coin stuff myself sometimes, obviously. but if i look up “#xenogender”, i don’t just want to see flag after flag after flag, i want to see people talking about their experiences. i kinda wish people kept coining posts to specific coining / flag tags, honestly. but that’s too much to wish for, i think.
i really need to get on making that new tag that’s centered around personal posts, but i am genuinely worried people will ruin it, start filling it with coining posts because they missed the memo, and oops- there’s another term that just ends up getting used as synonymous with “new mogai coining / flag tag” again. the same thing happened with liom, and the same thing supposedly happened with qai according to my friend. they’re tags pretty much filled to the brim, non-stop, with coining posts and new pride flags. they’re used as just a bunch of new tags you can put on your coining posts for more reach. which again, is fine in a vacuum, coining and flags are good, but my god does it feel empty and hollow when i can’t find people actually talking about their experiences at all. it makes me feel like everyone else with more “mainstream” identities gets to have these long and complex discussions with other people, while i have to sit around and play tuoys.
Please reblog and put in the tags your hair type (straight, wavy, curly, coily) and if you sleep with your hair in a ponytail/bun or leave it down PLEASE I’m so curious
the fundamental truth that underpins every one of these harassment campaigns is that it is always easier to discard a transfem than it is to tangibly support her. the people who run these campaigns are depending on you to burn bridges with whoever they tell you to, because it then enables them to do whatever they want to their targets with minimal pushback.
it’s easy for transfems to support our sisters, because it’s in our own self-interest. but nothing will really improve until the rest of the trans community makes an explicit effort to stand with us. this will come at great expense to them; they will lose their priveleges as an assimilated queer, and there will be almost no benefit to them. but regardless, it must be done.
if you are a non-transfem trans person reading this, please think seriously about the kind of person you want to be when the next transfem finds herself in the crosshairs.
the shitty thing about tumblr being so transmisogynistic is you can’t just be like “go to bluesky” or whatever. bluesky is also transmisogynistic. because the entire world is transmisogynistic and it seeps into every algorithm and business and social space. that’s why the word exists. it’s systemic, baked into the very core of society and culture. sure, i could theoretically escape it by blocking the keywords or being in spaces that don’t say the word, but transfems don’t get to just ignore it. when the banhammer comes down, it’s on their head. it doesn’t matter what they do or where they go, it’ll just continue happening until we finally, actually, change the way that algorithms and community behavior operates. and also until people actually take trans women and transmisogyny seriously. the way things are right now, the people lowest on the totem pole also get the shortest end of the stick in pretty much every space besides the ones specifically built by and for them. if people as a community don’t do anything about it it’s just gonna keep fucking happening. how many more trans women need to get banned before we lose our shit and don’t stop losing it.
ever notice how every single trans woman who gets banned is suspiciously some evil freak pedophile who literally killed 5483943 people. no no seriously look at this huge network of documents i have detailing the every move and behavior of them- i mean her, haha- since she was 13 and still using deviantart. yeah umm anyways so it turns out they’re a pedophile because they wore knee-high socks which is child-coded actually, super dangerous behavior to have around kids, i mean you don’t want kids seeing that right? and yeah, when they were 13 they said a slur once on reddit, something i have never done because i have always been morally pure and an arbiter of goodness in my community, so when they yelled at me and claimed i was doing “stalking” and “harassment,” they were actually harassing me because you know, people who are male socialized can just be so aggressive. they also like some kink i’ve arbitrarily decided makes you a sexual predator. ignore the fact that one of my mutuals likes the same shit. anyways we should kill him. i mean them. haha.
the shitty thing about tumblr being so transmisogynistic is you can’t just be like “go to bluesky” or whatever. bluesky is also transmisogynistic. because the entire world is transmisogynistic and it seeps into every algorithm and business and social space. that’s why the word exists. it’s systemic, baked into the very core of society and culture. sure, i could theoretically escape it by blocking the keywords or being in spaces that don’t say the word, but transfems don’t get to just ignore it. when the banhammer comes down, it’s on their head. it doesn’t matter what they do or where they go, it’ll just continue happening until we finally, actually, change the way that algorithms and community behavior operates. and also until people actually take trans women and transmisogyny seriously. the way things are right now, the people lowest on the totem pole also get the shortest end of the stick in pretty much every space besides the ones specifically built by and for them. if people as a community don’t do anything about it it’s just gonna keep fucking happening. how many more trans women need to get banned before we lose our shit and don’t stop losing it.
remember when the tumblr ceo stalked a random trans woman offsite and posted about her on his blog and nothing of consequence for him ever happened of that. and tumblr admitting that they were banning trans women unfairly and then they kept doing that. like transfems you follow will suddenly disappear one day and sometimes the ones with bigger followings will reappear and get spread but you still will have mutuals who you just haven’t seen for years because they were deleted without warning. and like shit just continues as if that didn’t happen and it isn’t still happening
idk how many people remember in 2023 when I randomly got this blog deleted but it was completely devastating for me, and I am extremely lucky in that I got it reinstated after I @’d tumblr support about the issue on twitter. I can’t imagine that I would have been that lucky if I had been a trans woman in that same situation, which makes me furious at the injustice of it all. like these accounts aren’t just stupid internet things, they’re logs of your relationships and interests that often cover over a decade of someone’s life, it is extremely upsetting to one day see that those accounts are gone with no reason or explanation
don’t forget how they admitted they had rogue TERFs on the mod team that were banning trans women for monetary gain. like you could pay the mods for a hit on some random poor tranny and they’d ban her without a second thought without her breaking any rules.
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