can confirm linux is a type of transgender, the very same day i started to experiment with linux (it was ubuntu, i think) on a virtual machine i started questioning if i was actually bigender instead of solely a trans guy! i still source linux to this day of figuring that out because i think its funny to say linux made me a girl again 🗣️
i got into linux right around the time when i started accepting i was a lesbian and also maybe possibly bigender. this is so funny. linux is a type of transgender!!!!
So anyways with the rapid rise of fascism I feel it’s a good time to point out that it’s perfectly legal to follow unjust orders slowly, badly, or inefficiently
Breaking the law, even an unjust law, has consequences that not all can afford. But also a very large number of us are also very stupid, or very confused, or very lazy, and so it’s not unreasonable that someone at the bottom of the chain of command might make a typo, or misplace some paperwork, or leave a Friday afternoon email for Monday morning.
When something goes wrong, or an operation slows down, because a low-level worker somewhere sent a package to the wrong address or left someone on hold for an hour or didn’t fill out a particular form correctly- Do you immediately assume malicious intent? Or do you usually just brush it off as some underpaid idiot being bad at their job?
You also gotta not brag about it. Keep your political opinions on the down low. Be noncommittal or ignorant or undecided. Say things like “I’ve never heard of that”, “where did you hear that?” or “that’s interesting, I heard a conflicting story from here, how weird”. Never be outwardly confidant of what you know. When there is a silence, don’t fill it- leave the space and let the other fill it for you. That’s how you get information, that’s how you find sources, that’s how you reduce the value of anything others get out of you.
Virtue signalling by wearing pins and ribbons and loudly declaring your place is not safe in some environments. It will place scrutiny on you and everything you touch. Nobody believes the guy who says “fuck my boss and everything he stands for” scratches the boss’s car by accident, even if it is an accident.
If you want to slow the march of a tank, filling the path with mud is going do more than laying down in front of it.
It has been literal years but every time I see Martin’s tweets posted somewhere and his word is shared as truth while her post is not shared it sort of reiterates the fact that we trust men to speak about feminism more than we believe women who experience it.
Reading her account of how their boss treated her blows me away. Men are so emboldened that they will literally admit to illegal discrimination casually and face no consequences.
In all the years of seeing this post I’ve never seen a link to her side. Didn’t even know she’d written one.
Adding screenshots of her post. His whole post is there without needing a link. Hers should be, too.
Also, she posted this is 2017! It’s fucking 2020 and I’ve seen his side of this for years, but it took 3 years for her side to make its way to my dash…
I’ve reblogged his story at least twice; it’s time for Nicole’s.
There is no autism that makes white people unable to understand racism and when they’re being racist. Please. Be serious with yourself and us.
If I and other autistics of color can recognize the signs, experience the outcomes, can even find different ways to explain them to you, then you can take the time to recognize how, regardless of your intent, you’re being a bigot. I loathe this mentality here. Absolutely despise it. It fills me with a deep disdain and utter disrespect for people who act like it. It’s not cute, it’s not funny, and it’s not acceptable.
Like y'all do realize that essentially saying “white autistics can’t help being racist” is not only ableist but… Means that you’re saying we shouldn’t trust you, inherently? Is that a hill you really wanna die on? I can’t fathom that. If I were a white autistic I’d swing on everyone trying to lump me in with that.
Rephrasing suggestion:
Autism is not an excuse to being racist. Especially after you’ve had people explain to you that your behaviour is being racist. Especially after people told you that your behaviour is harmful to them.
Then why would you say it at all, peer? Why would you take someone’s post, made in anger and frustration over the racism their community has experienced over this specific topic, and “suggest” they rephrase it, AND say that you know you’ll experience upset for it? You don’t HAVE to say anything! It can be kept in your head!
Are you angry that I removed the skin color on a post about racism (while leaving the racism part in)? Because that is, uh, interesting.
we should never let sanism slide, no matter how common it is or how it’s integrated into so much modern vocabulary. if someone uses mental illness as an insult, let it irritate you. don’t get used to it, don’t let it be normal. be so annoying about it. be the one friend who is too woke because otherwise it can never end.
be annoyed when “delusional” is said as an insult. be annoyed when the words “narcissist” & “abuser” are used interchangeably. be annoyed when “psychotic” is used to mean “dangerous.”
this behavior is not cool & we need to stop letting it slide. get obnoxious.
umm yes i think so. neogender means a gender coined after 2000 and xenogender was coined in…. 2013-ish? so it’s like that whole square rectangle thing. all xenogenders are neogenders but not all neogenders are xenogenders. i think.
after i made a term called neagender, i realized that my experiences were a lot more broad than just that one term. but i didn’t know how to categorize it, or what it would be considered. nothing really felt right. i didn’t really resonate with anything that already existed, whether it be agender, xenogender, or anything else. it felt like some weird… thing that didn’t exist yet and i, of course, said “ooh, i could make something new! i’m inspired!”
one of my favorite things at the time was the dictionary of obscure sorrows. kenopsia is one of my all-time favorite words, i just think it’s really neat sounding and with an even cooler meaning. i thought to myself, what if i made an umbrella term for things that kinda fit into the same vibe as neagender? voids, yeah, but way more than that. stuff like liminal spaces and emptiness, the unknown, obscurity, the uncanny, things i love but that also make me feel uneasy. paradoxes, the unexplainable. big vast things like space and the ocean. i could go on forever with a billion more examples. since i was describing a very broad and vague concept, based on “vibes” instead of strict lines for what does and doesn’t count, i settled on making a new umbrella term instead of a gender system or something more restrictive.
originally, kenochoric was called kenocoric, because i didn’t understand the context behind the coric suffix yet. i was still new to neogenders and specific coining rules at the time. but i was pretty quickly informed of its misuse, and i went. hm. well. choric would also work, because i think it could tie into the greek word for “room” which can relate to stuff like liminal spaces, emptiness, and other common kenic stuff. so i changed it to that within a day or two of making it.
i made kenochoric for me. to describe a thing i was. i didn’t realize it would catch on with so many people, and ever since that point it’s been getting expanded upon, with new words and new variations of the experience that’s grown naturally. it’s been really cool to see.
What would be your ideal transition as a kenochoric person
a thing that you’re incapable of fully perceiving. kind of like an optical illusion. overloads your brain so you can only see a warped or simplified version of what it really looks like. i mainly experience my kenosity through the idea of “the unknown,” so it would be best represented as something that you genuinely can’t fully know the appearance of.
i can’t explain shit for shit, but at least in that context it’s like women who don’t realize they’re lesbians for a while cuz misogyny + homophobia in society makes them like. try to fit in. and sometimes they get fake “crushes” they can never actually obtain and stuff. if something’s actually reciprocated, it might suddenly feel gross or uncomfortable.
like umm, an example from when i was a kid: all my (girl) friends were in a circle and talking about their crushes on boys, and kept “daring” me during games to finally admit which boy i liked, so i just picked the most popular one in school because i knew people’d think it’s weird if i didn’t have one. and i tried to convince myself that i toooottally did because that’s what’s normal. in reality i kinda hated him lol.
and then later on, i thought i had a crush on this guy who had a crush on me, i was like oh we’re close and everyone thinks we’re dating and he keeps trying soooo, i guess i must like him? ok. but then every time he actually tried to make any advancement on me i would Freak the Fuck Out and run from the situation.
that’s why i was saying it’s hard to know if you’re bi or if it’s comphet or even internalized arophobia, bc a lot of these experiences can look similar on the surface. 👍🏻
there’s also no winning. i quickly went from saying i was gay to bi because my family freaked out way less when they thought me ending up with a guy was still an option. but when you’re bi, a lot of people don’t take you seriously or act like you’re Less Into Women. and then some people don’t even think aros exist. so you’re going through this journey of self discovery, and you’ve got haters every single step of the way. nightmare blunt rotation.
(different anon) i think the more common term for it is usamerican? i don't think i've seen anyone say usian before (also it could be easily mistaken for asian instead)
usian is a term i’ve seen used before, so i kinda just defaulted to it. usamerican is more clear though, i’ll change it to that
Lil nas x getting charged with 3 counts of battery against a police officer and resisting arrest as a black man going through a mental health crisis where the police approached aggressively and tackled him to the ground is depressingly par for the course for police and specifically the lapd and it should piss people off and instead people are making jokes about it in instagram comments :/
I hate the lapd and the california department of corrections. If the california criminal justice system has 1 hater its me. If it has no haters then I have probably been killed by the lapd for being a critic
Did you not know? If you don't share your opinions on every topic ever then I, a random person who's not entitled to any information about you or your beliefs, will assume you must have the Bad opinions.
(sarcasm, if it's not obvious)
wake me up (wake me up inside) can’t wake up (wake me up inside) SAAAAAVE MEEEEE
i keep getting so many anons asking me what my take on x is or if i support y, as if i simply must’ve forgotten to make a big giant list of my every single opinion on every topic or something
i have absolutely no idea if that server still exists. i handed off the admin position and left over two years ago now
i’ve heard “calico cove” is a new big mogai server. i don’t intend on joining because i don’t really consider myself part of the mogai community anymore, but i’ve only ever heard positive things about it. if you type in mogai on disboard it should be one of the first results 👍🏻
calico cove is a fun server.. oOo 🌀🌀 people who see this should check it out ooOo 🌀🌀 <- is totally unbiased + also a mod in the server
i was so freaked out realizing i was a lesbian instead of bi a year or so ago. which is really funny because i fucking love being a lesbian now. i am so happy existing as a weird dyke. in hindsight, i probably should’ve realized whybisexual didn’t ever really feel entirely right, but even though i knew lesbianism obviously Existed i thought there was no way i could be like. not. into guys. i didn’t even consider it until i really sat down and went… isn’t it kinda weird that i pretty much universally hated when boys hit on me and my relationships with them always felt dull. ig i had convinced myself that the discomfort was normal and was just social anxiety or shyness. that i mysteriously did not have when it was a girl. which could mean nothing,
i have core memories of telling my mom how uncomfortable it always was when i was around that “puberty is starting” age and all my guy friends who i hung out with to play pokemon mtg and minecraft with suddenly changed and we could no longer be friends. they’d never let it stay that way!!! i had like 4 different experiences with either long or short term guy friends turning it into some big huge confession and me having to gently let them down, which always turned into some BIGGER fucking thing that 100% of the time resulted in me no longer having them as a friend. and just trying to articulate how much that sucked. how much i did not want my guy friends to “like” me. Ever.
and she’d just look at me like i was losing my mind like. god it’s not a big deal [deadname]. they were just flirting with you. they’re boys. you’re a girl. it’s normal. and i’d be like does nobody on this bitch of an earth understand me right now. i know it’s normal but i hate it anyways!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i was so freaked out realizing i was a lesbian instead of bi a year or so ago. which is really funny because i fucking love being a lesbian now. i am so happy existing as a weird dyke. in hindsight, i probably should’ve realized whybisexual didn’t ever really feel entirely right, but even though i knew lesbianism obviously Existed i thought there was no way i could be like. not. into guys. i didn’t even consider it until i really sat down and went… isn’t it kinda weird that i pretty much universally hated when boys hit on me and my relationships with them always felt dull. ig i had convinced myself that the discomfort was normal and was just social anxiety or shyness. that i mysteriously did not have when it was a girl. which could mean nothing,
google image search fucking sucks but thankfully i always used to put icon credit in the description back on kenochoric. cuz i could not find my old icon’s source ANYWHERE, not even on pinterest for god’s sake. but i went through the wayback machine and lo-and-behold, i found it. so now i get to be a creature on main again
yeah sometimes i have a phase where i use light colors and whatever on my blog but i alwaaaays return to the tried-and-true black and purple eventually. it really is the best color-combo
call my tastes purple guy the way it always comes back
google image search fucking sucks but thankfully i always used to put icon credit in the description back on kenochoric. cuz i could not find my old icon’s source ANYWHERE, not even on pinterest for god’s sake. but i went through the wayback machine and lo-and-behold, i found it. so now i get to be a creature on main again
the worst part of talking about amatonormativity is how i’m always really mad when i talk about it. the second worst part is that i always have to google it to copy paste the word bc i can’t ever figure out how to spell it and it’s embarrassing for me
change your hearts or die so i don’t have to keep embarrassing myself
she keno on my choric 'till i r̷̢̛̜͚͇͔͚̦͍͔̗̥͙̰̯͉̈́̓̊̐͆͒̃͗̇̔̾́̔̄̈̂̋̕͝ͅe̶̛̺͔̯̤̬̩̣͚̻̣̪̖̓̽͒͊̈͑̀̄̅͆͌̐͗̑̐͛̾̅̈́̿̚̚d̸͖̼͖̜̱̥̦̤͙̼͗̍̏̔̏͌̒̈́̓̑̍͋͌͂́̈̆̎̒̚͝ͅà̷̩ͅc̸̛̛̮͐̉̀̇́̿͗̊͛̀͊t̸̡̡̬̦̝͇̣̹̲̲̳̟̼̭̟̯̠̆̀͘͜ȩ̸̗̫̻͔̏̈́͋́͐̐̈̋̐̎̒̽́͂̀̎͘̚͘d̸̻̫͚̤̤͉͔̹̮͖̜̬͙̰̼̻͕͂̃̔̎̍͊̎̈̃̒̓͑̄̌̎́̄̽̕͝͝
she keno on my choric 'till i notice the house¹ looks a little funny
¹ Possible reference to the book “House of Leaves” by Mark Z. Danielewski. Outdated humor.
she keno on my choric 'till i r̷̢̛̜͚͇͔͚̦͍͔̗̥͙̰̯͉̈́̓̊̐͆͒̃͗̇̔̾́̔̄̈̂̋̕͝ͅe̶̛̺͔̯̤̬̩̣͚̻̣̪̖̓̽͒͊̈͑̀̄̅͆͌̐͗̑̐͛̾̅̈́̿̚̚d̸͖̼͖̜̱̥̦̤͙̼͗̍̏̔̏͌̒̈́̓̑̍͋͌͂́̈̆̎̒̚͝ͅà̷̩ͅc̸̛̛̮͐̉̀̇́̿͗̊͛̀͊t̸̡̡̬̦̝͇̣̹̲̲̳̟̼̭̟̯̠̆̀͘͜ȩ̸̗̫̻͔̏̈́͋́͐̐̈̋̐̎̒̽́͂̀̎͘̚͘d̸̻̫͚̤̤͉͔̹̮͖̜̬͙̰̼̻͕͂̃̔̎̍͊̎̈̃̒̓͑̄̌̎́̄̽̕͝͝
People still tend to lump JK Rowling in with the category of ~problematic artists~ and I need everyone to understand that is not the problem with her. She is not comparable to anyone who wrote a piece of fiction you hate, or someone who made rude comments in 2015 and has since learned better.
She is far more like Elon Musk. She is a radicalized person with an extreme amount of social and financial power, and for YEARS she has been using that power to try to influence her government into hurting vulnerable people, on purpose. And she has succeeded. THAT is the problem with her, and THAT is why spending money on her books is so dangerous, not because her books aged badly.
Critiquing her work is fine, of course (I personally was never a fan so I really don’t care) but you NEED to understand that fiction is not the main issue here. And I truly think acting like she’s the same as the rest of any giant list of ~problematic creators of the week~ waters down how dangerous she is.
tbh i don’t like that queer has kinda replaced lgbtq+ in a lot of media. not bc i dislike queer, it’s my preferred label, but bc i do not consider those terms synonyms. in anglophone countries at least, i think queer has always been a political term and i dislike that it’s lost its “teeth” so to speak. that’s a word people had to steal back from both cishets and assimilationist gays who threw trans people and bipoc under the bus to have a better chance at acceptance for themselves. it’s a word that was thrown at people even within the community bc they weren’t able to “fit in” enough. it was a word used at riots and protests and it was used very much so in a reclaimed “fuck you” kind of way. it was literally a slur we ripped back outta their mouths on purpose. yet so many people who use queer now are extremely reactionary. you’ve got corporations using it, and you’ve got the most conservative lgbtq+ people ever using it too. they wear the window dressing of being a radical punk, but they’d cry if they saw a homeless person on the bus with them. feminism and racial justice hurts their feelings. they’re concerned about the optics over the intersectionality. and it makes me so damn mad. some of these people would’ve hated stonewall if they’d been around at the time but still have the nerve to say Queer Power like it’s an advertisement
i have absolutely no idea if that server still exists. i handed off the admin position and left over two years ago now
i’ve heard “calico cove” is a new big mogai server. i don’t intend on joining because i don’t really consider myself part of the mogai community anymore, but i’ve only ever heard positive things about it. if you type in mogai on disboard it should be one of the first results 👍🏻
what’s an uncommon/specific /obscure topic you’re interested in?
:3c
do you collect anything?
CRYSTALS. i looooove crystals. my grandma makes jewelry so she’s always given me little rocks and crystals and things so now i have A Problem. i have so many that i legitimately have an entire box of geodes in storage. my favorite one is this little rose quartz pillar i carry around in my pocket sometimes as something that makes me feel a little less anxious. idk if i really think crystals have any kind of actual “magical” properties or anything but i like to imagine thatthey do just bc i think they’re really cool! ^_^ also seriously end the stigma of lab grown crystals i am so sick of it!!!! they’re literally the same thing except people don’t need to be exploited to get them. it’s all just artificial scarcity, everyone and their grandma could have a diamond if we stopped exclusively putting value on blood diamonds and rejecting “"fake”“ ones that weren’t drilled up by exploited workers in the global south to sell for a ridiculous amount of money <- political tangent bc this makes me so mad
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what’s your favourite piece of clothing you own?
i have this really comfy loose cropped shirt that was really cheap and honestly should be falling apart but i love how it looks on me and it’s so god damn comfortable it’s my favorite thing in the universe. i also have this really baggy blue hoody thats super comfortable, and i wear it around my apartment constantly whenever it’s cold. it has the logo of one of my childhood ice cream shops on it so it’s extra special :)
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who was your childhood favourite music artist?
avril lavigne 10000000%. i was OBSESSED with avril’s music when i was a little kid. also hillary duff, i loved her a LOT as well. later on i also got into selena gomez, katy perry (oh, how times change), and owl city. it took a while, but eventually i found linkin park through my babysitter, and some rock music like silversun pickups and vampire weekend from my mom, which kickstarted my dive into rock music and later metal yayyyyyy
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what’s an uncommon / specific / obscure topic you’re interested in?
i have a ton of them, but probably my oldest one is shipwrecks and plane crashes. the titanic was my first special interest, and i think it just branched out from there into anything similar. i’m also really into codes / ciphers, i had a book about it that i read dozens of times that went through the history of people using cryptography and codebreaking at increasing levels, in an eternal cycle of people making more and more difficult ciphers and codebreakers having to figure out more and more complex ways of breaking them!
